How to Run with a Significant Other

My husband and I met through running.  Since our first-year anniversary was yesterday, I thought this was a timely post.  Running with a spouse can be enjoyable if you let it.

How to Run with A significant other

Running is a hobby we’ve both shared.  We started running a long time before we knew each other and there are very few spans of time we run the same pace but it is enjoyable to share that time with him. Especially since oftentimes, running is free time. Instead of going for a long run alone, it can be enjoyable to do a training run with a spouse.

Some of the earliest dates were runs. I didn’t even say: “going to run with a boyfriend”, we were just college kids that liked running. Then we were close friends running together, then boyfriend and girlfriend, and now we are married.

These days,  we share quiet moments with uninterrupted conversation when running.  During this day and time, it’s hard to find these uninterrupted moments.

So how do we run together?

First set ground rules. This is true of any running partner or running group. You will be husband or wife, whether you run together or not. You might not follow the same training plan.

Easy Mileage:

We typically run easier mileage together.  I’ll speed up my pace 10-15 seconds per mile, and he slows down a bit.  We agree we will try and meet halfway.   We don’t do hard efforts together because our hard efforts such as mile repeat because our paces are not the same.

He is a faster runner than I am and also has different goals.  (I like 5k-13.1 while he likes trail running, and 5k-10k).  Occasionally he will do a tempo run with me, but that is the extent of workouts together.


We like to sign up for races together.  The important part is we don’t race together.  We will warm up and cool down together, but when the clock goes off, we race to our own standards. We are still training and racing together, but doing so to reach our own goals.

Racing for you is important because if one person is faster or feels good, it will create problems to stay on the course together.  Part of being with a fellow runner is that you can’t expect to stay together or feel the same every race.  We support each other, good or bad race. Post run, we are still married.

There are some important things to remember:

Ultimately someone might feel good or better on a particular day.  That’s okay, and there is no reason to feel upset by it.  With any running partner, it’s important to remember that running is for you. Once you reach the finish line, you both love each other and love running. There is no point to hold anyone back.

Running and working out can be a great addition to any relationship, but your ability to run the same paces (or not) does define a relationship.

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Questions for you:

Who are your running partners?

Do you run with a significant other or run with a girlfriend or boyfriend?