Seeing Someone in the Military

I don’t talk about Tim and I’s relationship much on my blog.  In fact I don’t talk about Tim all that much on my blog.  You can probably guess because I’m still living happily in NJ, we are 100% happy together.  (I really tried to make that sound as least awkward as possible).


Anyways last Friday I got a text that said “because of the winter storm we are flying out to California for the week to train”.


So you mean to tell me because it’s snowing on the East Coast, you get to go to California and train in the gorgeous weather? 

UGH.  Hard doesn’t even begin to explain it.  With one single text message I found myself alone for the week.  I was happy for him because he has worked long hours and at least he would get to work long hours in the sun.  (But yes I was a little jealous…take me to California).

I cannot believe this was a year ago visiting when we were doing long distance
I cannot believe this was a year ago visiting when we were doing long distance

I think I’ve mentioned but incase I have not Tim is in the Air Force and flies.

So this week at the bat of an eye his job took him to California.  Other times it will be internationally.  He had one day notice to prepare (work related) and then one day off (Saturday) to hang out with me.  I was lucky that we got to relax, go for a run and just hang out before he left.  I know that won’t be the case other times.

Our relationship is tough at times when these types of things happen but I would never trade it for the world.  We are so happy together and going through these quick changes (and moving 1 million times) just makes the best times even better.

The night we found out we were Jersey bound
The night we found out we were Jersey bound

I couldn’t be more proud of him though because of how flexible he has to be and how hard he works.  This week honestly wasn’t terribly hard.  After doing a distance relationship for a year in Oswego I find myself missing him after a day.  I guess that is what living with a significant other does to you…

Flight School graduation (the plane he flies is in the background)
Flight School graduation (the plane he flies is in the background)

I’m not complaining at all.  I am noting that this has been a hard week for me.  I’ve always been happy in my relationship with Tim and these harder times just make the easier times even better.

Somewhat recent
Somewhat recent


  1. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have a boyfriend/husband in the military who could have to leave at the drop of a hat but I definitely understand missing someone when apart even for a short time. We went from living together to me spending our engagement living in another country. We saw each other three times that year and I was home for about 2 weeks before we got married. It definitely makes you appreciate the time you have together.

  2. I think I have a lot of friends in your shoes and it still amazes me how you hold it together. it also really shows how strong your relationship is with tim. Those actions speak louder than words.

  3. You are so strong. I can’t imagine how hard it must be sometimes, especially when it can be so last minute that Tim leaves. Its not the same, but I lived in CO alone for half a year while Jonah was still in NY…so I do understand the lonely/distance part. It definitely makes you appreciate the together time more.

  4. My husband travels A TON for work and sometimes on short notice and sometimes for extended periods of time- it sucks- but it does make you stronger when you are together. I think shorter trips are the hardest! The longer the trip, the more mentally prepared you are (and you make plans, etc)- with short trips I find myself just thinking “5 more days!”

  5. I love this post and am so glad you guys are happy! Sorry this week has been tough – I can’t even imagine what that would be like! Thinking of you – and he better bring back some Cali sunshine!

  6. Wasn’t there like a trunk or something on the plane that you could have hid out in and gone with him? I’m sure the military toooootally wouldn’t have noticed….

      1. Holly is a tiny girl. There’s plenty of room! Nice paint skills by the way 🙂

  7. I can’t even imagine how hard that is- just to find out “oh I’m leaving tomorrow!” is insane! You are so supportive, Tim is lucky to have a gf like you 🙂 also you guys are adorable together, love all the pics!! that sequin dress in the first picture is amazing, haha

  8. Spending 38 years with the Air Force I understand what you are going through. The constant time spend apart is very trying on any relationship. I wish only the best for the 2 of you.

  9. Hang in there! I know it’s not easy. For what it is worth, I am thankful for Tim and his service to our country!

  10. Oh this makes me want to cry. I’m so emotional lately, I swear. I can’t really empathize here, but I do know a lot of women who are military wives and gfs and I have so much respect for all of you. You two are cute together 🙂

  11. LDRs are tough, and even though it’s a choice we make to enter one, it’s still tough all the same. I can completely understand what you’re going through. Not necessarily in the same way, as I wasn’t dating someone in the military, but a little bit.

  12. I’m glad that you and Tim have each other. I am also glad that you are living together now and not doing Long distance all the time. You deserve some settlement and happiness 😉

  13. I have a hubby like that, he travels a lot and it is hard when he is away but the homecomings are wonderful. Hang in there Hollie xxx

  14. That’s a positive attitude to have! My boyfriend was in the Air Force too! Now he is in the Air Force reserves, he does nerdy satellite tech stuff, and just told me he will have to go abroad for a month and to TX for a week of training sometime this summer. He’s technically not obligated, as it’s the reserves, but it’s frowned upon not and I would never encourage him to not do it. But you’re right, the time apart/time that is hard just makes it even better when you get to be together!

  15. I don’t know how you do it, I think I would feel really anxious and sad a lot of the time. Your strength in trust in one another has to be unbreakable, which is really admirable for our age group. Keep your head up and stay strong, that man loves you. <3

  16. this is just the tip of the iceberg of the difficulties that come with military relationships–it was only compounded when I was with Tyler since we both were military. I’m sure someday I’ll end up married to someone in army/air force/navy/marines so I’m glad I have the experience under my belt. We deal with things people could never imagine.

    A pet peeve of mine is when people not in military complain about not seeing their significant other for x amount of days… try MONTHS to a year. Rant over.

    Great attitude =)

  17. My husband travels for work and it’s the hardest thing ever and he’s only gone days. I truly admire military spouses and those who with long distance relationships.

  18. You know, this is what so many people don’t see. Everybody knows about the deployments, and those are hard enough, thankyouverymuch. What people don’t realize is the constant state of “anything goes” that you have to live in when one or both people in a relationship are in the military. Sometimes, that’s almost harder for me than deployments (ALMOST) because I feel as if we don’t really have any freedom, just some sort of quasi-freedom that can be torn away with one little text. Good on you for being willing and able to manage the military significant other lifestyle. It isn’t for everyone but you two are clearly some happy campers!

  19. I can’t even imagine being with someone in the military. I was upset when my husband had to leave for a week for a theater conference. You’ve got a great attitude about it, though.

  20. “…and these harder times just make the easier times even better.” <– I couldn't agree with you more on that one. I'm currently doing the long-distance thing with a guy in the military, and it definitely hasn't been easy. There are times where he literally disappears and I don't hear from him for a couple of weeks, but it does make the times I'm with him (or even when I just get to talk to him on a consistent basis) so much better. That being said, there's no way I'd want to do this for any extended period of time 😆

  21. My husband and I met when we were both in the army and often had opposing schedules. The military certainly adds a different layer of complexity to the relationship!

  22. My husband was in the Army, so I know how this can go. We were apart for 18 months at one point, and had two other deployment scares. While this stinks, you can’t help but be proud and thankful for them, serving our country. Tell Tim thank you. You seem to deal with it as best as possible which really is all you can do, when you love someone and they’re in the military. 🙂

  23. Love this post, it brings back a lot of great memories of dating my husband. We were a long distance relationship as well due to the military! We’ve now been married almost 8 years! Stay strong, it’s hard, but a relationship that can survive that, can survive ANYTHING! Hope to see you at Shamrock!

  24. Reading this brings back a lot of memories, great memories. My now husband and I did a long distance relationship for almost 2 years because of the Air Force! It only made us stronger and we are coming up on our 8 year wedding anniversary!! It’s tough, but if you can get through this…you can get through ANYTHING!! Looking forward to seeing you at Shamrock hopefully!

  25. Ah. As an airforce wife I understand! My husband has a job that is work 6 days 3 day weeked. But the 3 days are always interrupted with surprise work things, add the 14 hour shifts that change every 6 weeks? Yuck. Then there is my neighbors husband that works m-f 8-4….never gets pulled away from a weekend for his job.

    Ehh. Yeah. But hey my husband loves his job!

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