The moment I got into the NYCM my life became pure chaos. About a week after signing up for the marathon I decided I would work for the summer in VA then move to Texas with Tim in the fall. He was graduating around that time and it made sense it would be a good time frame. When I made that decision in May I thought I would have the summer to train for the marathon and keep that training in the fall while living down in Texas. Since moving down here only two weeks ago, life has thrown me a lot of curve balls.
Somewhere in college I lost the ability to be flexible. I think it was the day I signed up for the cross country team while already being on our collegiate swim team. (Looking back I think why was this a good idea?) Between college work, classes, running and swimming I needed to be in a routine to get everything done in the day. I knew what I needed to do and when . I also knew I needed to have life planned out a few days prior to accomplish these tasks. That worked out well for me throughout school and I was able to thrive in everything I set out to do. It worked out well solely because I had no one elses schedule to work around. It was just me. After making a lot of life decisions senior year I stayed pretty routine to finish my new major on time while still running. Even on days that I didn’t have class until noon I liked to wake up around 7 and do homework in the morning.
When I got a job in Oswego I kept a planned routine. I essentially had been living by myself and on my own schedule for three years and just needed to worry about myself. Now living with Tim I’ve already learned very quickly you can’t plan or make plans based upon yourself and you have to be flexible.
For instance Tim doesn’t always get done with work until around 6, 7 or even 8. He also doesn’t know when he will get done and can’t text and say I’ll be done at such and such time. So I have to be flexible of when I’m eating or making dinner. Maybe he will show up at 5…maybe 8. Both have happened on numerous occasions.
We also thought we would be moving again at the earliest in January. That isn’t in the cards for us and we will have to be in New Jersey by early November. That is only a month and a half away. I just unpacked and moved to Texas and now I have to repack and move to New Jersey. There was little or no warning and he just came home and said “hey check this out”. Oh these are our move dates.
Incase you forgot I’m also running the New York City Marathon the first weekend in November. So I have that bit of stress to go along with moving and training. Moving, training, looking for a job was not all part of my plan and routine when graduating college but it’s what happened.
So over the course of the week I learned that I will have to move again BEFORE the marathon on November 3rd. I have to repack everything and due to some training Tim is doing be in New Jersey before he gets there. We were not expecting this at all. Would I have moved to Texas if this was the case? I don’t know but no sense in playing the what if game. I don’t regret it. I am enjoying my refound spontaneous and flexible attitude.
Being flexible is something I have come to embrace again in the last few weeks. I thought I could live my life on a set routine but moving down here has taught me that is not the case at all. I am glad to have found a spontaneous happy medium. I don’t fear the future like I once did I am embracing it. Things will happen when they happen. I will find a job when I move to NJ and worrying about it now isn’t going to do me any good. As much as I would love to preach this to others I know it is something they must find on their own, just as I did.
Question for you: Are you spontaneous or a routine oriented person?