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Four Years of Marriage

Four Years of Marriage

Four years ago was the best day of my life because my husband and I got married.  We had a wonderful wedding, and there is nothing we would have wanted differently.

As most people know, he is in the military and has been gone a lot.  While his deployments aren’t long (about two months), they are frequent and so are his other trips.  I won’t say it’s been easy and there have been plenty of hard days. I will say we are still as happy as the day we met.

Today I knew today I wanted to post about our anniversary but had no idea what to post.  I finally settled on a “how we met post.”  Many long term readers know “how we met,” but many people don’t. I’m always interested to see how other people met their significant other, so I thought I would share.

So How Did We Meet?

My husband and I met during college cross country season in 2011.  It was a scrimmage race between our respected two universities.

Tim ended up winning the scrimmage race for men, and I won for females. After the scrimmage, we talked for a while and went on a run a few weeks later.   Cross country season went by, and we still chatted after the season.  During this time, I was coming back from my first serious running injury a tibial stress fracture.  Tim did multiple sports and was getting ready for ski season.  Since cross country was over, and he was no longer running competitively, running at a slower pace didn’t matter.  I was running easy after my injury, and he was running easy just to run.

YAY an old school college picture.

Eventually, after several runs, we hung out outside of running. When the semester ended, we both went to our hometowns for the winter break. Tim drove down to Virginia Beach and visited for New Years.

Later in the spring, we officially started “officially dating”.  I was blogging at the time, and I don’t think I even mentioned on the blog: OMG you guys, a new boy in my life”.

In May of 2012, we both graduated from college and decided to try a long distance relationship.  Our options at that point were long distance or break up.

Tim went to Air Force Undergraduate Pilot school in Texas, and I began working in Oswego, NY.  During that time, we both learned a lot about ourselves, interests and hobbies.  We went just over six months without seeing each other.  It was one of the hardest times of our relationship but worth it.  The first time we saw each other again was that Thanksgiving, and it was as if nothing had changed.

My first visit to Texas

After Thanksgiving, we saw each other again for Christmas, then in March and in May. It was a lot easier than the first few months.  After nearly a year of distance, we made the decision I would move to Texas. As much as I enjoyed my job in Oswego, I wanted to continue my relationship with Tim, and we had to eventually move (he did not have that choice).

In Texas, they have these for decoration…

Winning a growler at a half marathon in Texas

Then in late 2013, Tim graduated his pilot training, and we were told we would be moving to New Jersey. Neither of us knew anything about NJ (except people drive very quickly on the Turnpike).

I’ve now lived in NJ for five years, and I love it. We never thought we would stay here this long, but I don’t mind. I’ve made incredible friends, I enjoy my job and there is always something to do.  We are only a few miles from Philadelphia and a short (3-6 hour) drive from both of our parents, New York City and Baltimore.

On April 1, 2014, Tim proposed to me.  It was exactly what I wanted, low key and at our house.  We are low key, and I could not have asked for a better proposal.  As much as we both love running, proposing at a race or in front of hundreds of people is not either of our scenes.  Neither are big crowds or making a huge scene.

 

Engagement photo

Even though we lived in New Jersey, we decided to get married in my hometown area in Norfolk, Virginia.  We spent a year wedding planning and got married on April 12, 2015.  While planning a wedding further away was more difficult, it wasn’t as stressful because we both have such supportive and helpful parents. For each of the things. We couldn’t have dreamed for a better day.

After our wedding, we took a few days to relax and went straight on our honeymoon.  We decided to spend a few days in Key West and go on a cruise in the Carribean.  It was a great vacation, and it was perfect.

Then a few days after we got home, he was deployed for a while.  For the first six months of our marriage, he was gone for just over 4.  Afterward, he was home for a bit more, but for the past four years, he has been a lot.

Throughout the first few years of marriage, we have learned a lot about ourselves and each other.  Even though I grew up as a military child, being a spouse much different.  It’s not always easy, but the time we do have together makes it worth it.  I’m also thankful for my family and friends who help me get by.

We aren’t able to celebrate today, but that is okay. We might talk today; we might not.  It doesn’t mean I love my husband any less.  I could not ask for a better person in my life.

Although we met through running and it’s a part of both our lives we do a lot of other things together too.

Flying together

new york city private flying

 

 

grand canyon north rim

Visiting the Grand Canyon

hiking flagstaff mountain boulder

Here are some other posts about my husband and I (or just my husband): 
Wedding Post
Honeymoon
Flying Together
Tim’s Recap of the Mercedes Marathon

Questions for you: How did you meet your spouse?  When is your anniversary? 

 

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Time to Go

This Sunday I’m getting married.

If you have been following along for the last year here are a bunch of my recaps:

Engaged

Wedding Fears: For the LOLZ

Wedding Update 1:

Wedding Update 2

Wedding Dress Shopping

Final Wedding Update: The food is good

I can truly say I have not been as excited for anything more than this.  All of the wedding planning, the stress (LOL) and the driving will be worth it.  (ETA: I haven’t been stressed at all).

But a few people have wanted to know where my blog will go during this time…

It will still be here!  I scheduled a few posts during the time I am gone: diner reviews to catch up on, a couple of posts from friends and even a few product reviews!

I will not be updating my social media regularly during the honeymoon.  I have pretty much written everything that will appear on this blog from now until late April (which I believe is about 5 posts).

I love you blogging friends but I love my (soon to be) husband more.  I have been looking forward to this day and our life together for a very long time.  I am sure I will update sporadically on Instagram and twitter but probably not a lot…I’ve felt disconnected the last month already!

I appreciate everyone’s support and love and I appreciate my friends and family who are able to attend the wedding this weekend.  We look forward to it!

It would be a lie if I didn’t say we didn’t look forward to the honeymoon as well (something I’ve chosen not to share right now on the blog).

Anyways, I just wanted to give you a heads up!  And my social media accounts will probably be primarily focused on my wedding for a while.  

T and I post race.

 

I trust everyone can function without LOLZ blog. 

One Month Away

Exactly one month from now Tim and I tie the knot.

We get married.

It’s hard to believe that this photo surfaced my social media account almost a year ago.

coffee wedding
Since last April, Tim and I have been through a lot.

But then again what couple hasn’t through their engagement?  I think it’s unfair to say we have been through any more or any less.

engagement photo 6

We have been through two deployments and multiple long term trips but we are still planning this wedding (stress free).

Looking at Venues

Looking at Venues

We have been through a serious running injury, terrible winter weather and of course a marathon. We have both had lives outside of wedding planning.  We don’t feel as if our life revolved around wedding planning.

I think having a year of planning was they key for us to stay stress free.

Next weekend we head to Virginia to get some last minute wedding details done. After that trip, it’s a down hill slide of minor details to finish.

Here are some things that could have been terribly stressful if we had let them:

  • The venue we wanted was booked every Saturday of 2015 (except one Saturday in February). I’m glad we didn’t choose February because we all know how that month turned out.
  • My bridesmaid dresses being sold out when we went to order them.
  • T was deployed or traveling 8 months out of 12.  I am lucky I had friends to

All of these thoughts just make me realize how excited I am to get married.  I truly cannot wait for our wedding next month.

Questions for you:

What is your best advice for the next month? 

Should I change from a wedding dress to runderwear for the reception? 

Wedding Updates

My wedding is less than 100 days away. 

wedding engagement

 

To say I am nervous is an understatement.

To say I’m excited is also an understatement.

Tim and I are both extremely happy together and we are both excited.  I love Tim, his family and the family I am going to be welcomed into. I know my family is also very excited to welcome Tim into our family.

When I went home at the end of 2014, I ended up getting a lot more wedding related items crossed off.  Since about half of my readers are personal friends and family (hello family who never comments but I know you are there!) I thought I would continue the wedding updates.

The biggest update is…we are still getting married! 

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What exactly did I do in Virginia wedding wise?

  1. I had my first wedding dress fitting. I still like my dress (good because that would be bad news if I didn’t).  My alterations are only going to cost 160 dollars (best wedding deal of the day).  I bought shoes so now all that is left is jewelry.  I want bdazalled blinged out bling and hoop earings…or something.
  2. I ordered invites. I hate wedding invitations.  They are pieces of paper to address and mail but they are done. They will be in the mail within the month.  
  3. Tim and I booked a honeymoon. We are really excited for it.
  4. I touched base with a good portion of wedding vendors, etc. I need to make sure they are still on board with the wedding you know. 

The most common questions are: Are you stressed? Are you a bridezilla? Are you tired of wedding planning? 

The answer is no.  Like I said, I’ve gone to the first vendor recommended for each category. They’ve all done a great job.  I think planning a wedding is as stressful as you make it.  I’ve gone to the first wedding vendor and said the following: I have no idea what I want but you are an expert.  Each time they come back with really great ideas.

The wedding vendors are professionals, they have done this before.

I have not done this before.  It makes sense for me to utilize their wealth of information and knowledge about the industry.  Plus, I’m not trying to be stressed about our wedding.  It’s one big party.  I know if we were married within a few months it would be more stressful.   That is the reason we chose a year…so we can truly enjoy the process.

What is left to do:

I’m heading down to Virginia Beach the weekend of Shamrock.  Not for the race itself (except it works out that way) but to do final touches with all the vendors.  It’s hard to believe the last 9 months have flown by.  There are now less than 3 months until our wedding.

Cliff notes of wedding updates:

We are still getting married.

I touched base with a lot of the vendors and have started planning a lot more out.

Here are other posts incase you’ve wondered about the process:

Engaged
Wedding Fears
Wedding Update 1
Wedding Update 2
Wedding Dress Shopping

Questions for you:

What was the most stressful portion of wedding planning for you?  What was the least stressful?

What is your favorite type of wedding flower?

Wedding Planning Update

When I went back home last month, I was more than successful for wedding planning.  With the exception of save the dates, I’m on a roll.  Once the big stuff is done (catering, venue and dress) then the less fun, smaller things will be the focus.  I feel like I’ve been talking a lot about my wedding and it’s obnoxious but my parents reminding me this is a once in a lifetime thing.  You are supposed to talk a lot about it.

So what have I done wedding wise?

First Tim and I picked out the venue.

We took engagement photos.

engagement photo 2

We found a wedding planner who has been nothing but help.

I have also knocked a few more things off my big to do list…

My parents and I went and tasted food.  Food as well as alochol has been an important factor for me.  Not because we want everyone to get drunk and forget about our wedding ceramony, but we want people to enjoy themselves.  We also want to have good food.

In the majority of weddings I remember:

Did I have a good time (DJ)? (or did I take a lot of photos in a photobooth)

 

precious.

precious.

Was there food good (food)?

Was there coffee (or alcohol)?

 I told the caterer that I would walk down the aisle in runderwear if it meant good food for the guests #sacrifice.

Long story short we were able to put together a menu and find some good food.

We also found a great DJ that I’m quite excited for, especially now that the song Anaconda by Nicki Minaj is out (has anyone seen that music video?   I dressed as Nicki Minaj from the video Superbass for Halloween senior year of college…I’m glad she hadn’t released this song).

Last but not least, I got a dress!

Wow, I’ve gotten a lot done.  I would like to think I can relax but I still have these Save the Dates to get out.  Wedding planning has been really fun and I’m enjoying this chapter of my life.

I suppose the final two big things we have to get done are flowers and wedding cake.  If anyone knows any florists in VA Beach area let me know.  I’m not a big fancy flower person (sorry they die anyways, I would rather go on vacation) but I do want and need some flowers.

Then all the smaller stuff like decorating but that’s why I gave that a solid 6 months to actually do.

Questions for you:

What kind of decorations did you do for your wedding?  Do you like flowers?

What were your favorite and least favorite parts of wedding planning?

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