Four Years of Marriage

Four Years of Marriage

Four years ago was the best day of my life because my husband and I got married.  We had a wonderful wedding, and there is nothing we would have wanted differently.

As most people know, he is in the military and has been gone a lot.  While his deployments aren’t long (about two months), they are frequent and so are his other trips.  I won’t say it’s been easy and there have been plenty of hard days. I will say we are still as happy as the day we met.

Today I knew today I wanted to post about our anniversary but had no idea what to post.  I finally settled on a “how we met post.”  Many long term readers know “how we met,” but many people don’t. I’m always interested to see how other people met their significant other, so I thought I would share.

So How Did We Meet?

My husband and I met during college cross country season in 2011.  It was a scrimmage race between our respected two universities.

Tim ended up winning the scrimmage race for men, and I won for females. After the scrimmage, we talked for a while and went on a run a few weeks later.   Cross country season went by, and we still chatted after the season.  During this time, I was coming back from my first serious running injury a tibial stress fracture.  Tim did multiple sports and was getting ready for ski season.  Since cross country was over, and he was no longer running competitively, running at a slower pace didn’t matter.  I was running easy after my injury, and he was running easy just to run.

YAY an old school college picture.

Eventually, after several runs, we hung out outside of running. When the semester ended, we both went to our hometowns for the winter break. Tim drove down to Virginia Beach and visited for New Years.

Later in the spring, we officially started “officially dating”.  I was blogging at the time, and I don’t think I even mentioned on the blog: OMG you guys, a new boy in my life”.

In May of 2012, we both graduated from college and decided to try a long distance relationship.  Our options at that point were long distance or break up.

Tim went to Air Force Undergraduate Pilot school in Texas, and I began working in Oswego, NY.  During that time, we both learned a lot about ourselves, interests and hobbies.  We went just over six months without seeing each other.  It was one of the hardest times of our relationship but worth it.  The first time we saw each other again was that Thanksgiving, and it was as if nothing had changed.

My first visit to Texas

After Thanksgiving, we saw each other again for Christmas, then in March and in May. It was a lot easier than the first few months.  After nearly a year of distance, we made the decision I would move to Texas. As much as I enjoyed my job in Oswego, I wanted to continue my relationship with Tim, and we had to eventually move (he did not have that choice).

In Texas, they have these for decoration…

Winning a growler at a half marathon in Texas

Then in late 2013, Tim graduated his pilot training, and we were told we would be moving to New Jersey. Neither of us knew anything about NJ (except people drive very quickly on the Turnpike).

I’ve now lived in NJ for five years, and I love it. We never thought we would stay here this long, but I don’t mind. I’ve made incredible friends, I enjoy my job and there is always something to do.  We are only a few miles from Philadelphia and a short (3-6 hour) drive from both of our parents, New York City and Baltimore.

On April 1, 2014, Tim proposed to me.  It was exactly what I wanted, low key and at our house.  We are low key, and I could not have asked for a better proposal.  As much as we both love running, proposing at a race or in front of hundreds of people is not either of our scenes.  Neither are big crowds or making a huge scene.

 

Engagement photo

Even though we lived in New Jersey, we decided to get married in my hometown area in Norfolk, Virginia.  We spent a year wedding planning and got married on April 12, 2015.  While planning a wedding further away was more difficult, it wasn’t as stressful because we both have such supportive and helpful parents. For each of the things. We couldn’t have dreamed for a better day.

After our wedding, we took a few days to relax and went straight on our honeymoon.  We decided to spend a few days in Key West and go on a cruise in the Carribean.  It was a great vacation, and it was perfect.

Then a few days after we got home, he was deployed for a while.  For the first six months of our marriage, he was gone for just over 4.  Afterward, he was home for a bit more, but for the past four years, he has been a lot.

Throughout the first few years of marriage, we have learned a lot about ourselves and each other.  Even though I grew up as a military child, being a spouse much different.  It’s not always easy, but the time we do have together makes it worth it.  I’m also thankful for my family and friends who help me get by.

We aren’t able to celebrate today, but that is okay. We might talk today; we might not.  It doesn’t mean I love my husband any less.  I could not ask for a better person in my life.

Although we met through running and it’s a part of both our lives we do a lot of other things together too.

Flying together

new york city private flying

 

 

grand canyon north rim

Visiting the Grand Canyon

hiking flagstaff mountain boulder

Here are some other posts about my husband and I (or just my husband): 
Wedding Post
Honeymoon
Flying Together
Tim’s Recap of the Mercedes Marathon

Questions for you: How did you meet your spouse?  When is your anniversary? 

 

Three Years of Marriage

Three Years of Marriage

Today, April 12th, my husband and I celebrate 3 years of being married.  It’s funny how fast time flies.  Over the past few years, I’ve had a lot of new readers.  So while older readers might remember when we got married, others do not!  I thought it would be fun to share our story of how we met, lived in Texas, and now have spent the last four years in NJ.

Tim and I met at across-country scrimmage race between our colleges in 2011. Tim won the scrimmage race for men, and I won the scrimmage race for females.  During the fall of 2011, I was a senior year in college, and coming off my first running severe injury: a tibial stress fracture.

After the scrimmage, we talked and went on a run a few weeks later.  The season was pretty much over, and Tim was getting ready for his competitive ski season.  I was much slower and since he was just running “to stay in shape,” a slower pace didn’t matter to him.  Our first few runs were cold, easy, runs in the late fall.  When I say cold, I mean it was already below 20 degrees in Potsdam,  NY.

Eventually, after several runs, we hung out outside of running.  The fall semester went by and by the time we knew it, it was time to go back home! Over the semester break, Tim visited for New Years and ran two local VA Beach road races.

I blogged before Tim, and I dated, and even posted about the races.In the spring, we started “officially dating”.  I think I even mentioned on the blog: OMG you guys, a new boy in my life”  (just kidding).  I don’t even know how it came up through blogging…I don’t think Tim even knew or cared that I blogged and that was okay by me.

A college date of making bread.

In May of 2012, we graduated and decided to try doing a long distance relationship. 

Our options at that point were to try and do a distance relationship or stop dating.  Tim went to pilot training school in Texas, and I began working in Oswego, NY.

The first few months of being apart were difficult. We hadn’t been dating long, but we went from seeing each other to not talking more than a few times a week.  By November, we were able to see each other for the first time since June.  Living alone and working in Oswego, NY taught me a lot about myself and being independent.  I will never trade that time.

My first visit to Texas

After Thanksgiving, we saw each other again for Christmas, then again in March and in May. It was a lot easier than the first few months.  After nearly a year, we made the decision,  I would move to Texas, and we would live together. As much as I enjoyed my job at Oswego, I wanted to continue my relationship with Tim.  Since he was in the Air Force, he did not have the option to move up North.

Winning a growler at a half marathon in Texas

Living in Texas was tough and wasn’t as glamorous as I thought it would be.  It was the first time I lived with significant other, I was miles away from anyone I knew, and realistically 200 miles away from any big towns.  Tim was also busy with school, and I felt isolated.  When he graduated, we would be moving to New Jersey.  Neither of us knew anything about NJ (except people drive very quickly on the turnpike).

When we found out, we were moving to NJ

On April 1st, 2014 (Yes April Fools Day), he proposed.  It wasn’t on social media or some big ritzy event but it was perfect for us.  We got married about a year later on April 12th, 2015.

Engaged now…let’s go to a diner

Married Life:

Life over the last 3 years hasn’t always been easy.  Since Tim is in the military, he is gone…a lot.  He has been gone about half of our marriage, and I believe 6 deployments, but they all blend together.  That being said, we make the best of the time we do have together.

A few people have asked, when he is deployed he is 100% gone.  When he is back in NJ, he may or may not be around on local trips.  It is isn’t a balance of being gone versus being at home.  When he is home, he still goes to work and still flies.  For instance, right now he is home, but last week went on a week-long trip. 

First dance

Getting home from a deployment.  (The plane he flies is in the background)

Working at a local running store, makes my hours difficult sometimes too.  Even when he is home, there have been months that we have had no days off together.  I’ve asked off from work, only to have his plans change and now I have a free day off, but he isn’t working.  Usually, it’s hard to plan anything.

A few years ago, we used to spend our limited free at home, watching TV, or doing nothing.  Then we realized that just wasn’t us.  We decided to try other things, and that is eventually how we got into exploring NJ and going on fun hikes around the state.  We don’t hike fast, and aren’t “pro hikers,” but we do enjoy it and spending time together.

Ramapo State Forest hike

In December 2016, he found out he had to go to school in Montgomery, Alabama for 8 weeks.  I decided to go down with him, and it was such a fun and rewarding experience.  I met so many people down in Alabama, and Tim ran his first marathon in 70-80 degree heat where he broke 3:00.

After that, we moved back to NJ and have continued to live here.  We genuinely like NJ a lot and everything it has to offer from the wide variety of South Jersey, North Jersey, the shore, diners, and everything in between.

private flying around NJ/NY

While I don’t share a lot of personal and marriage details outside of running, I could not imagine spending this crazy adventure with anyone else.

Questions for you:
How did you and your significant other meet?
Have you moved around a lot?

One Year of Marriage

Today is my husband and I’s first year anniversary.  Many of LOLZ readers know how we met and our love story, but it’s fun to reshare.

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 Here is a quick summary:

We met running in college.  We dated for the second half of senior year then maintained a long-distance relationship for a year and a half after college.  I decided to move to Texas, September of 2013 and we promptly moved to New Jersey after.  After living in NJ for a while, we got on engaged April Fools Day 2014.  A year of wedding planning went by and we got married April 12, 2015.  Now we just finished year one of marriage.  Good thing I blog so I can remember everything. 

But here is the longer version:

In the fall of 2011, we met at a cross country scrimmage race between our colleges.  After the scrimmage, we talked for a while and went on a run a few weeks later.  During that time, I was coming back from my tibia stress fracture.  I wasn’t supposed to worry about pace.  It was towards the end of the season so my goal was to make it through the season healthy.  I barely ran with my own team, let alone some random guy I had the hots for.

We didn’t run together until after the cross country season but we occasionally chatted.  I was knee deep in a recent college major change and Tim was a chemical engineer, so we were both busy. When we finally ran together in November, Tim was getting ready for Nordic skiing so his focus wasn’t pace or time either.  Running at a slower pace didn’t matter.

Eventually after several runs, we hung out. By that time, the semester was over and it was time to go home for winter break.  I grew up in VA Beach and he grew up in PA so we didn’t live close.

Tim actually came down and hung out for New Years.  We ran the Beat the Ball 5k as well as the Hair of the Dog 5k.

In the spring, we started “officially dating”.  I think I even mentioned on the blog: OMG you guys, a new boy in my life”  (just kidding).  I don’t even know how it came up through blogging…

This was about 3 years ago at the greatest night out in my life. I won a contest rapping Nicki Minaj superbass.

This was about 3 years ago at the greatest night out in my life.
I won a contest rapping Nicki Minaj super bass.

In May of 2012, we graduated and decided to try a long distance relationship.  Our options at that point were to try a distance relationship or break up.  Tim went to school in Texas and I began working in Oswego, NY.

The first few months were tough. By November, we were able to see each other for the first time since June.  I loved my time in Oswego and it was one of the most pivotal and influential years of my life.  I am so glad I chose to go there but it was hard to not be together.

My first visit to Texas

My first visit to Texas

After Thanksgiving, we saw each other again for Christmas, then in March and in May. As we adjusted, it was easier.  After nearly a year, we made the decision I would move to Texas.  As much as I enjoyed my job in Oswego, I wanted to continue my relationship with Tim and had to move eventually (he did not have that choice).

Less than two weeks after I moved to the middle of nowhere, Texas, Tim graduated his training. We were told we were moving to New Jersey. Neither of us knew anything about NJ except people drive quickly on the turnpike.

Tim's flight school graduation

Graduation

After living in New Jersey for 2+ years, we both love the area.  It’s close to Philadelphia, New York City, the shore and both of our families.   It’s the perfect location for us right now.

We got married on April 12, 2015, in Norfolk, VA.  We truly had a wonderful time at our wedding and were lucky so many friends and family that could attend.  We took our wedding as a celebration and party and that’s exactly what it was.

After getting married, we went on a honeymoon and cruise.  It was one of the best vacations of my life.

Southern Most Point

Southern Most Point

Due to travel and work, my husband has been gone about half of our first year of marriage.  It wasn’t a secret this would happen.  I can’t say it’s been easy all of the time but we have made it work.

To be honest, it hasn’t been a crazy transformation or change since getting married.  We lived together for over a year before getting married so there were many quirks we were both familiar with.  Like any couple, we’ve had our ups and downs but we try to support each other through everything.

I feel so lucky to be celebrating our first year of marriage and many more.

Some of my favorite moments together:

Going to my college roommates wedding

Going to my college roommates wedding

Visiting Texas

Visiting Texas

Winning a growler at a half marathon in Texas

Winning a growler at a half marathon in Texas

Our first Christmas Tree

Our first Christmas Tree

Hollie & Tim-695-X2

Honeymoon

Honeymoon…because why not buy these shirts?

Tim and I

Enjoying the Jersey Shore

The one time our fitness was at the same point...

The one time our running fitness was at the same point…

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Here are some of the wedding posts if you want to look back on those:
Rejected Wedding Ideas
Lengthy Wedding Post
The Wedding

First dance

First dance

As always, thank you to friends and family for your love and support.  It feels amazing to celebrate our first year of marriage together and we could not be happier.

Happy Birthday Baby LOLZ

Last week wordpress sent me a “trophy”.  I like that even blogging is extrensically motivated in that you get trophies on occasions.  I didn’t know what I had done this time…(HA) but wordpress informed me August 6th is my blogging anniversary!   Funny enough, LOLZ is no longer a baby or even a toddler.  BabyLOLZ sounds so precious though…

I always remember that I started blogging in early August but can never remember the exact date.  I think every year it informs me and every year I say I’ll remember.  (Can you tell I need a planner to keep track of birthdays, anniversaries and life events?  Blogging is just blogging…so I don’t feel guilty for forgetting every year…

It just so happens that I also hit my 1000 #coffeeaday streak on Instagram a few days ago. I decided to stop while I’m ahead and keep my 1000 day streak at that…1000. It’s been a few days since I’ve taken a coffee picture and I’m at peace with it. Nothing goes on forever….does this mean I’ve stopped having coffee? No, of course not. I will still post photos here and there but I probably will never begin a streak again.  It seemed like the perfect opportunity to stop.

So with that, Happy Fourth Birthday LOLZ!

I could write multiple posts reflecting on everything I’ve learned, accomplished, failed and done in the last four years but that would literally be four years worth so I’ll keep it short.

In summary here are the last four years:

Year 1: I was in college studying both math and education.  I began running.  I was still swimming but I decided to run and swim in college.  I had a great year.

The Maths: Proving why a triangle is a triangle...at a diner.

The Maths: Proving why a triangle is a triangle…at a diner.

The maths.  Proving why a triangle is a triangle...

The maths. three weeks later…Still proving why a triangle is a triangle…

I swam miles and miles and miles...actually I swam distance events in college 1000/mile! Super #tbt

I swam miles and miles and miles…actually I swam distance events in college 1000/mile! Super #tbt

One of my first XC races.

One of my first XC races.

Year 2: I quit swimming and changed to a public health major with a math minor. I had my first major running injury (21st birthday stress fracture!) I ended relationships (both friends and a long term boyfriend) and grew as a person.  I began my senior year rejuvenated.  Senior year was the most free I felt during college (except for the beginning of freshman year).  I had a great year. Oh and I graduated college!

Doing my public health senior seminar paper...being a new rejuvenated woman.

Doing my public health senior seminar paper…being a new rejuvenated woman.

Winning my first half marathon in Plattsburgh!

Winning my first half marathon in Plattsburgh!

Falling on ice and breaking my arm.

Falling on ice and breaking my arm…then going to the bar!  I think I have the thumbs up because I had decided I was going to the sketchiest bar in all the land wearing that.  (YAY Streets)

Going to the bar in my human discoball outfit. (IE: Gold express dress)...oh and meeting Tim too.

Going to the (the lesser of sketchy) bars in my human discoball outfit. (IE: Gold express dress)…oh and meeting Tim too. 😉

Better reference for the dress.

Better reference for the dress…at the bar. (There is so much going on in this photo how can you not LOLZ).  

Year 3: I moved and worked at SUNY Oswego.  I made great friends, learned what real life was all about.  I ran a lot.  I had what I consider my first breakout race (Nike Women’s Half).  I became extremely close with both Heather and Laura.  I learned about true adulthood and real life responsibilities. I learned that I really enjoyed not being in college. I maintained a long distance relationship with Tim. Then I moved back home to VA one last time for the summer.

At the Walk to Save Lives Fall 2012

At the Walk to Save Lives Fall 2012

Look mom I have really good friends!

Look mom I have really good friends that helped me get through this point in time.  This is from February but I love this photo so that’s that. 

Year 4: I was invited to run for Oiselle. I moved in with Tim in Texas.  I lived in Texas for 6 weeks and then moved to New Jersey. I raised 2000+ dollars for Ophelia’s Place and Eating Disorder Awareness and won that half marathon.  I ran my first marathon and began working at a local running store.  I got engaged.  I developed a love for diners. Oh and I PR’ed again at the April Fools Half marathon!  For the first time, I could say I was liberated, happy and truly enjoyed the path my life is taking.

Oh texas...little did I know I would be here 6 weeks

Oh texas…little did I know I would be here 6 weeks

In Texas they have these for decoration...

In Texas they have these for decoration…

Marathons are so fun!

Marathons are so fun!

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We are engaged now...

We are engaged now…

Year 5: As Natasha Bedingfield says…the rest is just unwritten. I hope to run another marathon, have solid races and get married. I hope to continue loving my life and embracing the good, the bad and everywhere in between. I hope I’ll be posting a year five blog post next year. I appreciate everyone taking time to share the journey with me.

Questions for you:
How long have you been blogging?
What has been the most life changing event of your life so far?

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