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It’s Not You…It’s Me…

Something I’ve struggled with lately is having the time to hang out with friends.  I don’t feel as though I have the time right now to hang out with everyone I want too right now.  With work and wedding planning, I have struggled to keep afloat with my own mental sanity.  On my days off, I want to relax and catch up with wedding stuff.  Right now, I need to relax but also get more wedding stuff done.  I’m not stressed about it, I’m just in the process of trying to adjust to my current situation (thinking about it makes me realize that).

How sad right?

I felt the effects of exhaustion last week.  I woke up last Wednesday at 4am.  I had a serious migraine and was sick from 4 until going to work at 10.  I felt under the weather and exhausted.  I was extremely lucky that my boss allowed me to leave early and just sleep.  I slept from roughly 5pm-6am the next day.  When I woke up the next day, I realized I was still exhausted.  It took me the entire wedding weekend to actually catch up.

I guess this is adulthood. I don’t have children so kudos to all of you who balance training, working, etc.  Right now it isn’t that I want to ignore anyone or not hang out but I don’t have the time.  I’m currently trying to balance work, the final few wedding weeks and maintaining my relationship to the man I’m going to marry.  I miss the days that I was able to drive to North or Central Jersey and meet friends.

It’s honestly been a very hard realization and adjustment to make.  It’s hard for me to say no to someone wanting to go on a diner date, hang out, or grab food but right now I know it’s the best move for me.

I know this is one of the biggest moments of my life.  I’m sure it gets old because I’ve been talking about my wedding for a year but I don’t want to be stressed.  In order for that to happen I need to stay calm and make sure I put myself first sometimes and keep my own sanity.  I can’t show up to work or life both physically and mentally exhausted. 

This is an all to common situation for me.  I often find myself taking too much on my life plate.  I keep piling things on until nothing else fits.  Finally something gives and I am forced to take a step back.  It’s happened with work and previous jobs, with overbooking myself and with school and classes.

I’ve always been open and honest with my readers and I find that to be important.  Right now I’ve felt overwhelmed by everything.  I cannot wait to get married and I’m truly excited for it but the planning has been a lot more than I anticipated.

I’ll still be around in the blogging world but I do have a lot going on. As much as I want to meet with friends and readers to hang out, I know I have so much going on right now.  I truly appreciate everyone’s love and support.  No one likes to feel overwhelmed but I know it will all be worth it in the end.

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Questions for you:

Do you often pile too much on your life plate?

Do you consider yourself stressed easily? 

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Things that Got me Through the Winter

Guess what my blogging friends?

These are the last few days of Winter!   Insert 20 dancing emoji woman here.

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Long story short, if you lived on the east coast this winter was rough.

Running outside was rough. 

Walking outside was rough. 

 

December and January weren’t too terrible.  Then in February it got very cold, very fast.  After I got back from Upstate NY it just kept getting colder and colder.  I honestly felt like I never left that area.  The days we received snow were the better days because it meant it was warmer and less windy…

Now that I’m done complaining about the weather I thought I would talk about some of things that got me through the winter this year!

None of these products were sponsored or afflicant links.  Here are some of the top things I think got my through the winter.

Northface Jacket

I bought this jacket is November.  I didn’t think it would become my best purchase of the season.  It’s warm and I have no regrets.  It was staple jacket and most people at work don’t remember a time I wasn’t wearing it.  (No really…).  I like to add photos of my jacket in action and on dates so here we go.

My jacket and Theresa.

My jacket and Theresa.

My jacket and Christine

My jacket and Christine

My jacket and DadLOLZ

My jacket and DadLOLZ

Basically if you have seen me in the last 3 months, it’s probably been in this jacket.

Injinji wool Socks

injinji wool socks

These babies are long and warm (TWSS).  They kept me feet warm but also came above my leggings so that my ankles didn’t get cold.  I wish I had more pairs but alas Injinji was sold out when I went online.  They are my favorite sock in the history of socks.

Space Heater:

Without my personal space heater, I would have some miserable days.  The personal space heater allows me to control the temperature around me without causing everyone else to live in a sauna.

 

Two Vacations in the winter:

As most people know, T was deployed during most of the winter.  It was a cold, miserable and lonely month.  Having two vacations with friends really helped propel me through the months of January and February.

The end of January, I went to Rochester and visted Laura, Heather and Brittany.  Hashtag Dream team (#DreamTeam),

How did this even happen?

How did this even happen?

Then obviously at the end of February I ran my Marathon in sunny Phoenix.

Party foul...my eyes are closed but everyone else looks nice so this photo won!

Party foul…my eyes are closed but everyone else looks nice so this photo won!

I think having things to look forward too really kept me balanced and ready to propel through the winter.

Questions for you:

How did you get through the winter this year?

St Patrick’s Day and Guinness…

I had no idea what to post about on St. Patricks Day.

Yesterday I posted about how I began my running journey on this holiday.

I was actually inspired because while I’m not Irish, my two favorite drinks are Irish Coffee and Guinness.  If I’m having alcohol, it’s a 90% chance it’s either of those.

I like having Irish coffee because then it's "normal" to have whipped cream in it...

I like having Irish coffee because then it’s “normal” to have whipped cream in it…

As a wee lad celebrating my 21st, I drink a nice dark brew at a road race.

As a wee lad celebrating my 21st, I drink a nice dark brew at a road race.  #babyLOLZ

While googling St. Patrick’s Day Holiday traditions I came across this Buzzfeed article:

34 Ways to Add Guinness into your Recipes

I have added Guinness (talk about a throwback post) to my pancakes before and it gives it a slight dark taste.  I recommend adding Guinness and 1/4 cup cocoa powder.  You won’t regret it.

Another article: 11 Ways to add Guinness to your recipes

I enjoy cooking with Guinness occasionally because I think it gives it a bold, dark taste.  I also just like the taste…so today you learn nothing about my running but everything about my alcohol habits.

I don’t have any green smoothies or green oatmeal to post today because I’m not clever.  I’ll save that for instagram.

Since I enjoy my memes here are a couple: 

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I guess this is a super random post for today but that happens occasionally.  You learn my favorite drinks and that I occasionally cook with Guinness.  A few more fun facts in case you play jeopardy about my life…

Finally..stay safe my friends!

Questions for you:

How are you celebrating St. Patricks day?

I am working..wahoo…then probably hanging out a local bar.

What is your favorite beer?

 

 

 

Friday Five: Unlucky Pi

This week has two functional events:

Friday the 13th and tomorrow is Pi Day

Today is Friday the 13th!  Again!  I graduated high school on Friday the 13th and I was about 10 minutes from being born on Friday the 13th…dad always tells me that my punishment for getting out too quick (and being born Thursday the 12th) is that I’m still unlucky.

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Here are Five Relevant and Interesting Articles for Friday the 13th:

  1. 13 Facts about Friday the 13th (November is the next month we have one!)
  2. Why is Friday the 13th so unlucky? 
  3. Two Straight Months with Friday the 13th 
    • Random but what did you do on February 13th?  I remember that I was nearly late to work because my car slid on ice.  I guess that isn’t something to be remembered….no harm done.
  4. 13 (More) Facts About Friday the 13th (It’s unclear why it’s feared…yet it is.  I needed an article to tell me that one).
  5. Here is a photo from my high school graduation on Friday June 13th.

    I'm the one who looks like I'm 10 feet tall...in reality I'm 5'8

    I’m the one in the back row who looks like I’m 10 feet tall…in reality I’m 5’8

Anyways, moving on.  Friday the 13th is unlucky (so stay safe)… 

But…Tomorrow is one of my favorite March Holidays…

Pi day!

Also because it’s 2015…at 9:26 am…it’s some magical time since all the numbers line up.  Many, many moons ago I was a math major in college…so math has a special day in my heart.  I took a lot of math courses in college (I was a math major for a while and decided to go into public health.  Long story short, math and pi day always has a special day in my heart!)

The funny this is, however, I don’t like pie.  (Hashtag #Cake4Life).   I do like Pi though! 

Here are Five Relevant Articles to Pie Day:

Here are some interesting Pi day facts to get your knowledge on:

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  1. The Pi website 
  2. Facts and LOLZ: “What do you get if you divide the circumference of a jack-o’-lantern by its diameter? Pumpkin pi!”
  3. Everything and Anything Pi 
  4. Wiki How: To Celebrate Pi Day (this is hilarious)
  5. And because we know I love my memes: pi day meme 2

 

Since my blog generally has nothing to do with pie (but something to do with being unlucky) here are some updates from my personal life.

  1. Wedding planning has got me swamped. We have less than a month to go and it terrifies, overwhelms me and excites me.
  2. My butt is a pain in the butt. I have a post coming out on Sunday about my leg, hip and butt.  We have isolated the problem (somewhat) but there is a lot going on in my left leg.
  3. Make you work, make you work. I am working a lot.  I am busy, with my job…blogging is not my job.  I love you guys but I also love my job.  It’s like a 10 hour black hole of minimum internets.
  4. My facebook page only needs 17 more likes to get to 800. I’m not sure what 800 does for me, but please help me out!
  5. I’ve begun to Spring clean a bit when I have the time.  I have a lot of unused running gear, cool things and whatever else.  Some stuff I bought before trying it on and it doesn’t fit, etc.  I’ve debated doing a massive give away on the blog to people that will use it…or I’ll donate it to Goodwill.

Questions for you:

How will you celebrate Pi day?

What are your plans this weekend? 

 

Time Away

This is a bit more of a personal post. I began thinking more when someone emailed about Tim and I’s relationship and how we dealt with deployments so far.  It’s not a secret he leaves often and once we get into a semi routine that routine is normally broken.  Without fail this has happened every single time but that is the nature of the military community. 

We are not relationship experts by any means.  We do what works for us and makes us happy.

Flight School Graduation

Flight School Graduation

Am I upset, hurt or defeated that routine and plans are often changed at the last moment?

No, of course not.

Am I constantly learning about myself and my relationship?

Of course, who isn’t?

When we graduated college, Tim also commissioned into the military. I knew this would happen.  This had been his plan all along (way before he met me).  I didn’t have the experience to deal with the deployments, long distance relationships or the stress that came with it.  We talked a lot and I was prepared as I could be for the scenarios. I have always found in running and life that I learn the best by experiencing something.

For example:

In running, experiencing the bonk of my first marathon.  I had read many articles about the last 10k, but the experience taught me the most.

In life, experiencing the transition from college to real life and my first job.  College prepared me for a lot but my first job prepared me even more.

In our relationship, experiencing the first deployment.  We had prepared the best we could but the first deployment taught us the most.

Experiencing the first big plans changing (when I moved 1700 miles from VA to TX only to be told we were moving 2000 miles, 6 weeks later.

It wasn’t a secret we deal with multiple deployments and quick changes to routines and schedules. We both knew if our relationship would work out, we (especially me) would need to learn to be flexible.  I’m not looking for sympathy because I honestly I love my life and am happy with it.  I could not imagine life any other way.

Throughout college I was more routine and organized than anyone.  I had planners to plan my planners.  I was a very strict scheduled person.  When I went to my first job (T and did long distance for a year), I stayed very organized, planned and routine.  Fast forward a year and it made sense for me to move to Texas.  Tim was essentially told that he would be living in Texas for 4 years.  He didn’t have the option to move, I did.  So I moved 1700 miles to Texas.

About a week later, I got my first dose of reality.  After driving 1700 miles down to Texas, we got word we were moving to New Jersey (2000 miles the same direction…or 300 miles from where I started).

This was not in my plan.  My plan was to move to Texas and find a job.  

My plan was not to move to Texas for 6 weeks and move to New Jersey.  

That was my first dose of reality that our relationship couldn’t be planned.  We could not plan every moment of life.  We had to take things as they came.  We had to “go with the flow”…a phrase VERY foreign to me.

Here are some things that have worked for us:

  • Making sure we take time for each other.  We aren’t always together and there is no guarantee that a date night that was planned will stay planned…we do make the time to share the moments we do have together.
  • Communication.  It’s important to us (even if we aren’t together) to make an attempt to communicate.  Does this mean texting each other every minute of the day?  Absolutely not…but attempting to talk when possible is important.
  • Trust each other.  This comes a lot with being apart…we trust each other.  Even if we don’t talk daily, we know our relationship is strong.  We know when we are back together, nothing will have changed.  It is an absolute great feeling to know that.  It’s a feeling I haven’t had with anyone else.
  • I have touched on this before but having separate hobbies and activities.  When plans and schedules change such as a sudden deployment. I have other things to fall back on.  I have a job I love, friends and family that care for me and hobbies that I get enjoyment from.  Tim also has the same and I think having a few separate hobbies keeps our relationship strong.  That being said also having hobbies we can do together keeps us very strong.

These are just personal thoughts about what works well for us.  I could not imagine life any other way anymore (and gosh I cannot imagine being a very strict and routine person anymore).

Questions for you:

Are you a very routine and scheduled person?

How do you and your significant other make time for each other? 

 

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