We are all human.
That seems silly to type out. Every person has made a mistake…or a dozen. Blogging wise I’ve made countless mistakes and errors. Life wise I’ve made dozens of mistakes and errors. While many mistakes taught me lessons, many were just a pain to overcome and I completely regret.
The point is however, we are all just human. We all make mistakes and we cannot expect ourselves or others to live up to every standard that is given to us. We will be disappointed.
As I continue to grow, I continue to realize this. A bad habit I had when I was younger was placing someone or something on pedistol. I would think they were perfect. I would stick to a schedule or routine. They could do nothing wrong and my schedule could never go array. When something did go wrong, I got bent out of shape and my day or week was ruined.
Oh no I ordered a red bag and it came in the pink version. My life is ruined.
Oh no this food is taking longer than normal at a restaurant. I’m never coming back.
Oh no someone had to change plans because our original time was not going to work…we are no longer friends because they clearly don’t care.
I could go on and on. I held everyone to the standard of perfection, including myself. If I didn’t maintain perfect grades, do well at sports, do well at relationships (lol what does that even mean?) and whatever else in my life…I got bent out of shape.
It was freaking stressful. No wonder I was stressed ALL THE TIME.
The classic type A personality.
But over the course of the last year I’ve completely let go of that. I can relate a lot of it to the point in my personal life when I found out I was moving to New Jersey. I had just moved to Texas two weeks prior but the military had other plans for us. Immediately everything I had planned in my life went out the window. I was supposed to stay in Texas for (at least) four years. I had just driven 1800 miles out there. Yet here I am finding myself moving to NJ…and dare I say it…excited?
It turned out it was the best move for not only the pilot but me as well. We love it here. The night after finding out we were moving, my stress flew out the window. You would think the opposite in that I would be more stressed but something inside me clicked.
I realized forcing myself to live to such high standards wasn’t going to help any situation. It was only going to stress me out. Expecting others to live up to such high expectations wasn’t going to help anyon’es situation either. It is so important to remember that everyone is only human. We all mistakes. We all have highs and lows in our life.
Without that reminder, I was going to cause friendships to fade and tensions to rise.
So here I sit a completely different person than one year ago. One year ago, I was holding everyone including myself, to an unrealistic expectation. An expectation that was setting myself up for preventable stress and failure. I guess that is a throwback Thursday for the day.
We are all human. We all make mistakes and it’s important to remember that.