When Tim and I moved in together, I thought our relationship would get easier. I thought because we were living together it would be easier. After being in a long distance relationship for over a year, I thought moving in together would be a lot easier than a distance relationship. With any relationship, there are good times and bad times but I figured there would be a lot more good times.
While it is easier than long distance, it isn’t easy. Anyone living with a significant other can tell you that. Anyone living with a roommate can tell you that.
When I moved to Texas, I wasn’t working. Not only that but I didn’t have any friends down in Texas (except for Stephanie) and I didn’t have a lot to do with my day. Running only takes up so much of your time. Before I found out we were moving, I would apply for jobs but I still had lots of extra time.
Fast foward to the first few months of living in New Jersey. Once again running only takes up so much time and while I did have a few more friends to hang out with, it didn’t take up all my time while Tim worked. I could now finally start applying for jobs. (It makes it a lot easier to apply for jobs when you know you’ll stay in an area for longer than a month…). Long story short, even with all of those things I still found myself with a good amount of free time.
For a few months I applied for jobs, waited in limbo land and did my own thing. Tim and I still had plenty of time together because once he got home (most nights) we could eat dinner and hang out.
In March I started working at a local running store. To say that I enjoy my job is an understatement. I’m happy to chat running with anyone that will listen and help runners of all ages. It’s a lot of fun. (It’s different from anything I’ve ever done but it is a lot of fun).
For the last few months as I ease into my job, I find myself working a lot of later hours and weekends. Unlike a desk job, retail is open later and on weekends. It’s fine by me as I can pack a lunch and dinner and be set for the day. However, working Thursday-Sunday 10-7 is new found large dent in Tim and I’s relationship time.
When I’m off work, he is at work. When he is off work (Saturday and Sunday), I am at work all day. Having opposite schedules has been hard. We have however, found a balance in managing our lives and relationships. We both need personal time, we both need relationship time and we both love our jobs.
I think with anything life is learning process. You never really know what you are getting into (with a job, moving in with a significant other, graduating college, high school…moving…whatever). You might have an idea but you never fully know until you physically do something. I enjoy reflecting on changes (both big and small) in my life and this is has been one of the best. Sure there have plenty of adjustments, but there was when I went to high school, college and worked in Oswego.
Quite honestly I’m very happy with the direction my life is going. Life is full of lessons to experience along the way and I’m just blogging them.
Questions for you:
How do you balance your life?
Do you live with someone?